how to not be a dharma doormat

How can we balance not getting walked over and letting go of our ego grasping habits at the same time?

We have to be strong and stand up for ourselves, but not in the sense of trying to prove anything. We have to learn to respond to forces that come to us from outside in an open, clear and sensitive manner and that doesn’t mean caving in all the time. It often means really allowing that force to express itself as we open to it and then taking the energy of the force itself into the spaciousness of our being. There we will find an appropriate response – even if not at first. Continue reading How can we balance not getting walked over and letting go of our ego grasping habits at the same time?

The Trouble with Truth: Confusing the terms Relative and Absolute Truth – Why Lama Shenpen Prefers to teach about One Truth.

I like to emphasise that there is one Truth, we already intuit it, we are already it, and the best things about us are related to that. We’re already ‘there’ but we overlay it with all these doubts and confusion, which is what we’re working with. Continue reading The Trouble with Truth: Confusing the terms Relative and Absolute Truth – Why Lama Shenpen Prefers to teach about One Truth.

Student’s Question: I can’t relate to images of the Buddha

How important is relating to imagery, ceremonies and ritual in Buddhism? Does it matter if we can’t? It is true that often the meaning of a ceremony can easily get lost or neglected and then it can become a poor substitute for the real thing. But it can actually become a kind of language that we can use to express our deepest aspirations. Continue reading Student’s Question: I can’t relate to images of the Buddha

Student’s Question: How can we prevent grasping at our Buddha Nature?

Well there are no easy solutions to the tendency for ego-grasping to latch on to any Dharma practice one does. One just has to keep going back into the heart and finding the genuine motivation that lies there. Meanwhile the little ego-characters that haunt us will continually try to turn every experience into some sort of self-confirmation. Continue reading Student’s Question: How can we prevent grasping at our Buddha Nature?

Student’s Question: How do we turn towards our distorted sense of well-being and recognise it as our inherent sensitivity?

What is really happening when we feel out of touch with a sense of well-being? If you think about it, how do you know that you feel miserable and out of touch with a sense of well-being? What is that miserable feeling or that dead, lifeless, depressed, ‘can’t see the point in anything’ feeling? When you really turn your attention to it, what is it? Continue reading Student’s Question: How do we turn towards our distorted sense of well-being and recognise it as our inherent sensitivity?