It is all very sneaky isn’t it? Learn not to add to the sneakiness by judging it and condemning it – have sympathy and love for the sneaky part, it is doing its best. And as you love that part in you, you will find you can love that part in others too! Continue reading Working with our negative emotions & our sneaky self-centred parts
Even though our experience of it is distorted, we have access to its qualities already. They shine through our confusion and are what lead us out of it. We need to learn to be subtle about recognising what are the Buddha qualities and trusting them, and what is ego grasping and letting that go. While we are still only on the path, it’s not easy to distinguish between them. Continue reading What’s the difference between ‘personal mandala’ and ‘ego mandala’?
Just be very simple about it. There is a thought that thinks ‘let it go’ and there is the intuitive sense that this means something and an intuitive response that lets you do it. That is simply responsiveness and well-being, a sense of what would feel ‘right’. Somehow when you get the right touch it is not really thinking…In itself thinking is not a problem, but it bends back on itself and gets into knots. Continue reading When can thoughts be helpful in meditation? How can we learn to trust them?
Letting go of clinging does not mean being hard on yourself. The Buddha taught that we suffer because we cling to what is impermanent, unsatisfactory and unreal (not-self) as if it were permanent, satisfactory and real.
It’s about just noticing that letting go of clinging means letting go of what is going to go anyway, what was not satisfactory anyway, what was not real anyway. Letting go of egocentricity means letting go of ideas about yourself that are not actually true and which bring you no lasting happiness. Continue reading Letting Go of Clinging
It’s as if we open to the Dharma and a whole new possibility opens up and then the grasping mind suddenly realises it can’t grasp this and use it to secure itself. So it reacts and tries to say ‘It’s all rubbish anyway. There is nothing to open up to, it’s all fantasy, I am all right as I am, I don’t need to change’ and so on. It lasts for a while and the best thing to do is just recognise it for what it is. It’s just thoughts and feelings that you don’t have to take seriously. They come and go and try to sound very authoritative while they are around. Continue reading Student’s Question: What happens When Your Ego Fights Back?!
Keep looking at the essence of all those ego-clinging thoughts. It is quite wonderful how thoughts appear in the spaciousness of awareness. There is no trick for avoiding our ego-clinging habits except to just keep noticing them and letting them go. Continue reading Student’s Question: How do we balance developing confidence and working with ego-clinging thoughts in meditation?